Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Kelly's Bridal Shower

This weekend, 3 of my mom's best friends hosted a couple's shower for my sister and her fiance Nick. Since a) I'm totally cheap and b) I have two more showers of hers to go to, I decided to make them a gift. Heck, I've been pinning away on my pinterest boards. Might as well have something to show for it.

This was my inspiration.


Step 1: Get the maps. Kelly and Nick met at the University of Oregon even though they didn't start dating until they were both living in Portland working for Fred Meyer. They plan on marrying in a small chapel in Sisters, Oregon with their reception at Black Butte Ranch. And they live with their adorable Boston Terrier Charlie in Portland.


Julie D at work graciously let me use her color printer even though it was for personal reasons. (Really had to pull her arm to help me out with this project on a slow Friday with everyone else out of the office on various summer vacations!)


I thought the hearts were a little corny, so I decided to use circles instead.


Unfortunately, when I lined the three circles up, it looked like a stoplight. Luckily, Mark's cousin, Lauren was visiting. Lauren's an art history major and a wonderful artist in her own right. Her recommendation of placing a line of pink down the center pretty much saved the project.



I then shamelessly recruited Lauren to do the "handwriting" part of the project since my handwriting looks like an ADHD first grader after a pixie stick party.


And of course she did a magnificent job.


And here's the finished product! FYI Kelly and Nick's colors are pink and navy. Unfortunately, I spent so much time creating the present that I didn't realize that all I had to wrap it was an old towel and some leftover Christmas wrapping paper. All those pinterest DIY'ers would be so horrified ;)



Moment of truth! I think they like it. Actually, in the interest of full disclosure, I made them re-enact opening the present because I totally forgot to get a picture of their reaction. Hence, M's "are you kidding me," face in the background. 





Thursday, May 17, 2012

Paddy Whacked


Ever since I was reading chapter books, my favorite genre to read was historically based writing. Fiction or non-fiction - it didn't matter to me. My love of history and story-telling comes directly from my father, and his love was passed to him by his father.

Last year, my family visited Pop and Nana Donovan in sunny Marco Island, Florida. We LOVE Marco Island. My sister and I instantly take on our geriatric alter egos. We get up at 7am, go for a jog (well, she does - I usually help Pop with the daily crossword), eat lunch at 11:30, lay by the pool, catch up on the condo gossip, hit up the grocery store, family dinner at 5:00 with jazz playing in the background, bed by 9pm, rinse, repeat. Heaven on earth.

One thing I can count on is that Pop will always have an amazing book suggestion for me, and this last trip did not disappoint. Pop suggested the book Paddy Whacked by TJ Engligh to my sister and me. The book is the story of the Irish mob in America starting in New York and South Boston, migrating south to New Orleans, and then west to Chicago. The book is written in such a way that you find yourself identifying with the gangster characters during prohibition. You're in the garage with Whitey Bulger as he's dealing with the Italians in the North End. However - none of these stories, no matter how well-written they are, can compare with the story Pop told us one night while drinking cabernet after dinner. The story is one of his childhood inspired by a passage he read in Paddy Whacked. As he was reading, his eyes were opened to a world that his boyish naivete did not see at the time. I hope I do it justice.

It was the 1930's in Boston. Jack (Pop) and his buddy (we'll call him Sully, not because that's his name, but because I want to) were hanging out on a sunny Friday after school. Sully reaches into his cotton-twead pockets disappointed at how empty they are.

"Hey Jackie, we gotta make some dough."
"How we gonna do that Sully?"
"Well, I sees these guys down by the docks. Maybe we can get some work there."

The next morning, bright and early before the roosters have begun to stir, Jack and Sully head down to the docks. They see a mob of men (pun intended) fighting for the foreman's attention praying to the Virgin that they get selected to work that day so that they can feed their wife and brood of ginger kids. Sully and Jack work their way up front.

"We'd like to work, Sir." The foreman looks the two scrawny pre-pubescent boys up and down. "Oh you do, do you. Do you know what you're getting yerselves into, Boyle?" "Yes sir. We are hard workers. Whatever you need." Sully does all the talking. Jack's knees and teeth are chattering. "Alright, go over there on the ship and report to Murph."

The boys head over in the direction to which the foreman gestured. They were given two extremely large, extremely sharp hooks. They were then ordered to stand on the platform; the platform was going to lower them down into the cargo hull. Once there, they were to load up the platform with the merchandise down below so that it could be unloaded for sale to their vendors. At the end of the day, they'd send the platform back down and they could go home.

The boys do as they're told without asking questions. They nervously step on the platform, and the platform begins to descend. Almost instantly, a vile stench consumes their nostrils. The boys hold back gags and dry heaves. The ship was from South America. The cargo: cow hides. There was no way out. They were stuck with the rotting hides until the platform was sent down at the end of the day...twelve hours later. The boys worked - back breaking work - hour after hour in silence trying not to inhale lest they pass out from the pungent rotting odor. At the end of the day, the two ascended out of the hull like Lazarus rising from the dead.

The boys walked over to the foreman. Sully tapped him on the back. "Scuse me sir. Can we collect our pay." The foreman laughed. "You boys are still here? Well whatdoyouknow. Of course, here's your cut." He hands them each a dime. "You know, you boys are okay. If you come back tomorrow, you got yerselves another day of work." Sully looks up at the foreman. "But sir, tomorrow's Sunday. We gotta go to church." The foreman's jaw drops to the ground, and then he errupts in painful, sidespitting, uproarious laughter.

On the way home, the boys continue their self-imposed vow of silence. Jack walks into his home past his mother shreaking after him, "Where have you been all day? Jackie! Jackie!" He strips off his clothes, goes to the yard, grabs a barrel and burns them. The next day, the boys went to church - like good, Catholic, non-mob affliated Irish boys should.


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Pop didn't know at the time that this day was his brush with the Irish mob. And to be honest, after reading Paddy Whacked, I bet it wasn't the last. "Those guys" were your neighbor, your best friend, the grocery store manager, the guy down the street. In order to get money to support your family, you needed to work. In order to get selected, you had to have connections - and many times those connections needed to be through organized crime. It was a way of life, a way to survive in a country that didn't want them. If hindsight is 20/20, what does that make looking back 70 years later through the eyes of an expose on your culture?

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Trip to Albany

Last weekend, M and I visited his sister and her family in Albany, New York to meet his new adorable nephew, Everett James Berry. We had an absolutely AMAZING time filled with delicious food, wonderful conversation, and lots of adult beverages. Oh, and there were more than a few parenting lessons thrown in there too. Bottom line, M and I have a LOT to learn.

Example: Charlotte is 2 going on 25. She recently started potty-training. For those who don't know, she is one independent chick. She came down to our room and announced that she needed to use the potty...by herself. She marched into the bathroom, un-did her jammies and diaper, and plopped her little tush on the pot. M and I were sitting on the bed, facing her, waiting and watching like total creepers. Charlotte then announced, "Close Door!" Sounds natural. I get stage fright in public restrooms, and I don't have people staring at me to perform. So we obliged.

From the other side of the closed door, we hear "1, 2, 3 GO Abcdefghijlooooopqrstuvwxyz." By the third alphabet, we can't take it anymore. "Everything in there okay, honey?" And then we try the door knob. It's locked. Parenting FAIL! M starts scanning the key hole to see if we can pick the lock, but apparently there was something jammed into it so that wasn't an option. Then we started scanning the door hinges to see if those could be removed. No go there as well. I start talking to Charlotte to turn the little knob instead of the big knob to unlock the door. After probably the longest 60 seconds of my life, I hear a little click and she comes waltzing out, walks up the stairs and continues playing with her toys. M and I, however, have to change our shorts. Ugh!

Here are some of my favorite pictures from the weekend.


M playing tea party with his niece and nephew.



Everett contemplating how to take over the world.


Charlotte leads a difficult life but someone's gotta do it.


Charlotte, M and I painted flower pots. This turned out to be more an activity for the adults than it was for the toddler.


Possibly the most perfect picture in oh so many ways. 


Nike's next ad campaign. Is there anything more adorable than mini-sized shoes?! Flippin' adorable!





Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Sorry Hallmark - I pick today to say "Love You Mom!"

Holidays in our family aren't usually a big deal. Don't get me wrong, we celebrate. My family loves each other and will use any excuse to get together and have a great time. What I think is unique about the way my mother taught me to view holidays is to appreciate the meaning behind the holiday and not be a slave to the Hallmark created day. For this reason, when I asked if it was okay that M and I go to New York to meet his new nephew over Mother's Day weekend, she didn't hesistate to approve. Mother's Day is just another Sunday. I can thank her for being my mother on another day.

This year, though, is a little bit different. A month ago, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. If you ask me how I feel about that - I don't think I can give you a clear answer. It's still so new and we're still in the midst of seeing how this thing will play out.  My mom, however, is bad ass. She's determined to not let this define her or take over her life. There's no reason to cancel our trip because I'm supposed to spend this Sunday with her.

Two weeks ago we met with a really nice nurse coordinator at the oncologist's office. She was full of information and resources for which my dad and I were extremely thankful. She flips to the end of the binder and states, "This is your 'Survivorship' section. Because that's what you are. A Survivor. You are a survivor from the day of your diagnosis."

I have two problems with this.
1. Can you be a survivor before you actually beat something? We just found out. We don't know if she's a survivor. Not to go all literal - but come on.
2. Mom doesn't want to be a "survivor." Breast cancer does not define her, and labeling her as "breast cancer survivor" doesn't tell you anything about her. She wants to kick it to the curb and then forget it ever happend. Labeling her "survivor" pours salt in the wound - in my opinion.

Just like you shouldn't treat your mothers differently this Sunday because Hallmark labeled it "Mother's Day," you shouldn't treat people in your life differently because they've been labeled with a disease. We, as a society, shouldn't label people (even though we LOVE to do it). The disease does not define her. It doesn't describe her. All you know is that she had a couple of cells that went ape shit. That's it.

(As a sidenote - my intention is not to diminish the accomplishment of the thousands of women who have survived breast cancer. My intention is to point out that surviving breast cancer is just that - an accomplishment, not a label. I applaud their accomplishment and celebrate in their victory.)

I love my mom. She's always been the fun, cool mom. She is a model to me daily, and if I can be half as awesome as she is, I'll be doing okay.

Happy Day to a Great Mother!!

Sunday, May 6, 2012

Starting a Blog

I made the mistake of telling my friend McKenzie that my new year's resolution was to start a blog. When you tell people about resolutions, they hold you to then. Five months of procrastinating, some peer pressure text messages, and half a bottle of wine later - here it is.

Beyond actually gathering up the courage to start a blog, the hardest part of this whole process was coming up with a name for the blog. McKenzie had the great idea of going with something Irish. My dad's side of the family if from County Cork, and my Irish heritage is a huge part of who I am. What I didn't know until recently was that the claddagh is a part of a group of European finger rings called "fede rings" which comes from the Italian phrase "mani in fedi" or "hands joined in faith," making the ring that much more special as my mother's heritage is full-blooded Italian. Given that my idea for this blog is to write about the various relationships in my life and my journey towards giving the most I can on my end of these relationships, it only seemed natural that I should model if after the tennants of a claddagh ring.

So what is a claddagh ring? It's a traditional Irish ring worn by young women to signify friendship. The design is of two hands holding a heart with a crown. The hands symbolize friendship, the heart symbolizes love, and the crown symbolizes loyalty. The finger you wear the ring on, and the way it's turned (either heart pointing out or heart pointing in) signifies your relationship status: the original status update.



I bought my first claddagh ring at a jewelry store in Galway during a trip unlike any other. My college roommate, Christine, and I traveled to Ireland during our junior year spring break to visit our friends studying abroad. This trip to Ireland was the most unbelievable, unforgettable vacation I've ever been on with stories that I have told over and over and over again and will continue to tell til the day I die - maybe in one of these blogs I'll get them down in black and white!



When I bought this ring, I promised myself that I would only turn it once. I had visions of having my future husband turning it when he proposed or incorporating it into the ring ceremony during our wedding. However, the heart had different plans. About two and a half years ago, I met the love of my life. About 6 months into our relationship, I was sent to Ontario, Oregon for a clinical rotation as a part of my physician assistant education. Leaving M was much harder than I had anticipated...even though it was only for a short five weeks. One lonely day in Ontario, I decided to turn my ring. Although symbolic (and one that admittedly he knew nothing about at the time) that gesture brought me closer to M, and our relationship has continued to grow every single day since then. I look forward to the day when the claddagh ring gets "demoted" to the right hand by another more symbolic ring. Be it on the left hand or the right, M has captured my heart and the ring will remained turned only for him.